*coughs* Oh, hey, that's how I feel about gender at this point. It's... ugh, I gotta delve into that and figure out if there actually is a "my people!" somewhere, but I often feel like a gender lumper in a world of splitters. Gender non-conforming fits best for me, but it's frequently hard to articulate clearly why I am simultaneously very particular about my gender presentation, know damn well that this presentation does set me apart from most women, experience great distress if I'm forced to inhabit another presentation...

...and still feel completely comfortable lumping that presentation and gender "tradition" under the broader category of "female." I just think that broad category contains a lot more gender traditions than we all tend to think. And that perspective is rather at odds with most of the stable-nonbinary folks I know, and it's not a fluid thing at all, and genderqueer might work fine but there's still not a clear way for me to answer the question most of the time.

So. Yeah. What you say sounds right to me, yes.