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Happy Ace Awareness Week!
Oct. 24th, 2021 12:57 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
capri0mniHere's one of my favorite YouTube videos (from Way-ay-ay back in 2013) where an allosexual sex educator person talks about how she was educated about ace-ness: 5 Asexuality Experiences. And she has another good one, from just three years ago, about Demisexuality. Both of these are properly closed captioned in English, BTW.
You know, since most of my queer identity is defined by what I don't feel, I don't really feel very Queer at all (just a little bit queer, if I bother to stop and think about it).
But then, last March (2020), in her video "Artists and Fandoms,"* Abigail Thorn (writer and presenter of Philosophy Tube) said:
"Also, it is fun, and I enjoy being desired."
And my brain went: "Nope! nope-nope-nope! Nope! Do not Want! You can have mine, if you want seconds." I was surprised by the strength of my reaction, and I thought: "Gee! I guess I really am Not Straight. Huh. Whatcha know?"
Do I want to be loved? Absolutely! Do I want to be desired? No. Unfortunately, in most philosophical and aesthetic discussions, desire and love are almost synonymous. So it's hard to talk about.
Anyway -- happy Ace Week!
*This was before she came out as trans, and she was still using her deadname in public. So that may make it an uncomfortable watch. But it's still a good video, if you're up for it.
You know, since most of my queer identity is defined by what I don't feel, I don't really feel very Queer at all (just a little bit queer, if I bother to stop and think about it).
But then, last March (2020), in her video "Artists and Fandoms,"* Abigail Thorn (writer and presenter of Philosophy Tube) said:
And my brain went: "Nope! nope-nope-nope! Nope! Do not Want! You can have mine, if you want seconds." I was surprised by the strength of my reaction, and I thought: "Gee! I guess I really am Not Straight. Huh. Whatcha know?"
Do I want to be loved? Absolutely! Do I want to be desired? No. Unfortunately, in most philosophical and aesthetic discussions, desire and love are almost synonymous. So it's hard to talk about.
Anyway -- happy Ace Week!
*This was before she came out as trans, and she was still using her deadname in public. So that may make it an uncomfortable watch. But it's still a good video, if you're up for it.
