Hi! Anyone around?

[prysmcat]

I'm not sure how active this community is, but hey, I'll say hi anyway, and there's even a handy suggestion for how to do so. :-)

Name: Steph or prysmcat, either is fine

Age: mid-40s

Pronouns: she/her is fine

Identities: pansexual, poly, quoiromantic, kinky, pagan, disabled (anxiety/depression), sorta-more-or-less cis white female, and there are probably others

Other accounts: None - I just got here. :-) (Unless this means the communities I created to post multiple serials?)

My interests: Cats and other animals. Writing fantasy. Reading fantasy. Some pop-sci level science and history. But honestly, thanks to my anxiety along with being a serious introvert, I tend to limit what I look at or participate in these days. Most of my time is split between writing LGBT+-flavoured original fantasy novels/serials, and three mature rescued cats, two of them with chronic health issues, and the rest is spent with my trans roommate/best friend. I would, however, like to find more online friends as well as a home for my serials, which tend not to fit neatly into categories or labels.

Comments

[ahunter3]

Hi!

I'm Allan.

I don't have any preferred (or resented) pronouns. In a world where everyone chose TWO of them, one for their sex and one for their gender, I could pick an appropriate combo, but there's no single pronoun that isn't going to be misleading.

Genderqueer, gender invert, male girlish person. Oh, and 61, and polyamorous, and hmm don't know if it qualifies as hetero or something else (see previous discussion about pronouns, same issue with sexual orientation, is it by SEX or is it by GENDER?) but I like female bodied persons; they have tended to identify as women but that's not a requirement. I do prefer a more butch and definitely strong-willed and bluntly spoken person and one who doesn't expect (or tolerate) different expectations based on what sex a person is. Different roles in romance and flirtation etc.

[soc_puppet]

Hello and welcome!

Oof, I feel you on complicated pronouns and gender stuff. I've started asking folks to alternate my chosen pronouns, since I feel weirdly like I'm abandoning part of my identity if I only use one or the other (though I don't get too bothered if they don't).

Anyway, I hope you have an excellent time in this community! If you have any questions, I'll do my best to answer!

[prysmcat]

Hi, Allan. Labels are a royal pain - they can be useful, but no matter how finely we split experiences, there is still always someone who says, "I don't fit any of these" and someone who accuses someone else of not fitting.